When an AI Remembers Intimate Details, Set a Boundary First

Memory is central to EroLove’s pitch: the public About page describes facts, episodes and quoted moments that a fictional companion may recall. That can make a chat feel more continuous. The privacy policy supplies the other half of the picture: messages and memory may reveal intimate data, relevant conversation content is sent to third-party model processors to generate replies or media, and account deletion has specific limits. We did not test memory or inspect an account. This guide is a way to decide what you should share before the system remembers it.

Build a three-step disclosure ladder

Start with details you would be comfortable seeing in an ordinary app record: a fictional nickname, a favorite genre or a made-up scene. The second step is real but low-risk context, such as a hobby or general mood. The third step is sensitive: legal name, exact location, health history, sexual preferences, someone else’s private story, or identifying documents. Keep the third step out unless you have carefully decided the benefit is worth the data path.

The ladder is not a claim that EroLove sells or leaks information. Its privacy policy says it does not sell personal data. The point is that a service can process data for an authorized purpose and still be a poor place for something you never intended to store or send to a model provider.

Understand what “private chat” does and does not say

The policy says generated images inside a chat are visible only to the user, but some character images may be selected for public showcases, listings or promotion without a link to the user or messages. It says those published copies can remain after chat or account deletion. That is a different issue from exposing your name. A reader who values strict control over generated media should understand the distinction before requesting a sensitive scene.

The policy also says relevant conversation content is sent to third-party AI processors, not the user’s email or identity. It does not name every processor in the public page, although it says a list can be requested. This is a documented processing route, not evidence of misuse. It is still a reason to keep other people’s names and intimate facts out of a fantasy chat.

Plan correction and deletion before relying on them

EroLove describes an “Our story” screen for viewing, correcting, pinning, deleting and exporting memory. We have not opened it, so we cannot promise how a particular correction behaves. If a character stores a false fact about you, the rational sequence is to find the documented control, correct or remove the item, and then decide whether continued use is worth the effort. Do not reveal more detail merely to persuade the AI that its memory is wrong.

The privacy policy says personal data is normally deleted within 30 days of account deletion, subject to limited billing, tax, fraud-prevention or legal exceptions, and backups roll out within 30 days. A selected public character image can remain. The word “delete” therefore needs a scope: chat, memory, account, backup or published media.

Choose a boundary you can maintain

Before a session, write one sentence: “I will use fictional names and withhold real identifiers.” If you find yourself about to type a detail because a reply feels unusually understanding, pause. The comfort may be real, but the recipient is still a service with a data path. Our criticism is that the romance promise encourages disclosure before most users have mapped that path.

Source note

EroLove Privacy Policy, About and Terms of Service, checked November 5, 2026. No memory, export, deletion or processor test was performed.